11 July 2010

Song of the Day: 18 DAYS

I decided to post both videos because they both are pretty amazing.

Saving Abel - "18 Days" music video from Charles Lewis III on Vimeo.

This on is even better!


After a little web crawling, I came upon a familiar diagnosis. I couldn't help but giggle, but it hit pretty close to home for Rita. It makes me feel pretty bad for her; the rush of total control over other's emotions is like heroin to a junkie. Hahah. Nah, Rita isn't that bad...but can you believe that this is actually a real legit phobia? I can I guess. Commitmentphobia is often most strongly apparent in romantic life. Generally, commitmentphobic people claim that they are eager to find a lasting romantic attachment and get married, yet they fail to find appropriate partners and maintain longlasting connections. Ironically, in these romantic relationships, the commitmentphobic partner craves what she fears most: love and connection. This paradoxical craving for a frightening reality leads to a confusing and destructive pattern of seduction and rejection. The results are emotionally devastating.

The key to understanding commitmentphobia is recognizing that such behavior is rooted in fear—fear of lost options or fear of making poor decisions. The commitmentphobic mind sees decisions as permanent, opening the possibility of being caged or trapped forever with no means of escape. Commitmentphobia is a real disabling fear, that can be manifest in many areas of life, including career, home ownership, or even shoe shopping. This fear can make simple every day decisions into a tremendous burden.

To assuage their anxieties, many commitmentphobics become fantasy-driven, using their active imaginations to fill in for the lack of emotional security and closeness in their lives. Of course, these fantasies pose additional problems because no potential partner, car, or job can ever live up to the fantasy. Commitmentphobics are also prone to self-destructive behavior, such as walking out on partners or jobs without notice, leaving themselves and the people in their lives in untenable situations.

One potentially misleading aspect of commitmentphobic behavior is that the partner who is actively running away from commitment is not the only one with a problem. In fact, commitmentphobic behavior includes "settling" for inappropriate partners, pursuing unattainable partners, and engaging in instant relationship mergers as well as fleeing from what might have appeared to be a stable romance. Any persistent behavior that actively prevents a person from making a commitment or allows a person to make excuses for not having made a commitment can be considered commitmentphobic.
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01 July 2010

Song of the Day: This f'n Job

I just love this song...and the video rocks. One of the greatest bands ever!
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Dear BP
I really feel like you should be focusing more on fixing the issue at hand, and leave your reputation for later. The destruction of our planet, wildlife, and shore economy is just a little bit bigger than you. In order to volunteer cleanup...we have to fill out a form and maybe, just maybe we will be included on the clean up crew. Is it because you're trying to use organizational tactics by not using all the help you can get...or is it because you're afraid that everyone in God's name will see the horror? I completely understand how important a repuation is, but when my country is under distress...I take it a lot more personal. Even BP’s shareholders understand this simple logic. When news is out that the oil company is making progress on the Gulf of Mexico leak, it leads to an increase in share price. Fix the existing problem, and shareholders will fix your stock price yo. This has been dragging on, and on, and on..and as big of corporation as you have, one would think that the issue would have been resolved by now. Take your losses assholes! Get all of your equipment out of there and plug that hole.
65 days X 19,000 barrels a day = the worst reputation crisis in recent history
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